Hang Right Politics

Posted by Stephanie on September 13th, 2008 in Injustice, Obama the Messiah, Big Brother, Liars, False Premises, slavery, Values, Equality, Lies, Marriage, Personal Responsibility, Eminent Domain

This is one I discussed with the site ‘boss’ and have mulled over for a few days. I don’t know how to say it any better than what I laid out in that email between us, so, here it is:

So, I thought I’d ask someone wise.

This campaign is tearing me up inside, stomach twisting, nauseating, kind of tearing up. I might have said this to you before but, you see, I was an abused spouse in my previous marriage. It wasn’t just that he cheated on me constantly but he always managed to somehow make it my fault that he wasn’t a good husband… because I was “the worst wife a man could possibly be saddled with.” For 23 years I lived with this and all the responsibility of the marriage was on my shoulders. Any little perceived slight brought retribution, especially of the verbal kind. He was Lord  and master with no room for anyone else, even our children much of the time. By the time we divorced, I was already mentally and emotionally divorced from him, which is probably why we did divorce. When he learned he no longer had that kind of power over me, he was ready to move on to someone he could control the way he used to control me.

Why I bring this up is: This is the same stuff I hear from Obama and his supporters. We’re worthless and we must have someone else tell us everything we’re supposed to be doing. He and they use the same words and empty promises my husband used to use and when those don’t work, we’re called names and bullied. But to say we’re bullied gets the bully asccusation thrown at us. I know this is how it works because near the end of that marriage when I wasn’t quite yet mentally and emotionally divorced from him, I insisted on marriage counseling. Those sessions became all about him and how hard he tries but is never able to please me but in the privacy of our home it was always me who was lacking and he never missed an opportunity to say so. I was not allowed to contradict him in the counseling sessions and if I did, I would pay for it later in double abuse.  And every time he had an affair he accused me of having one when something like that would be the furthest thing from my thoughts.

Are you seeing the parallels? Every time Obama does something he accuses the opposition of worse. He projects his own failings onto the opposition. And he uses a lot of pretty words to say it all, promising to take care of everybody as long as we let him make all the decisions for us. He and the Democratic Party. And here I am listening to all this garbage knowing it for what it is but how do I tell people how I know without sounding like I’m still a victim?

I’m not a victim anymore and that’s why I want to say something. The last few years of that marriage were a nightmare because I fought hard for the right to think my own thoughts and make my own decisions and I sit here and watch as the government wants to now take those rights away from me and confer them on someone else who knows nothing about me while expecting me to fit some image they have determined is what I should fit. On top of that, no matter how hard you try to fit that image, the rules are always changing. I see these same things going on with government and I just don’t want to live like that anymore.

For those of us, I suppose they call survivors, we see the catch words and phrases and do our best to arm ourselves against them so were’re not caught up in that same trap. It’s one of the reasons why I don’t overly concern myself about being politically correct. I know what I mean and I believe I make my meaning fairly clear in the following statements on the subject, so the only reason to throw out digs about it is to bully and get me to back down.

 They target the young who don’t have the experience to differentiate between words and actions; read easier to control. By the time they learn, they’re caught in the trap, and make excuses for their Lord and Master. I know because for many-many-many long years, I did the same. This is why the Democrats get away with so much without having to commit actions to match the words they use.

There’s another thing survivors learn: when to back down and when not to back down in the interests of peace.  This is not a time for backing down.

The people supporting the Democrats believe the government will make it all easy for them, taking most of the responsibility for their own lives off their shoulders. All it will cost you is: servitude. Servitude to the gods of government to order and arrange everything in your life according to their determination. I remember a friend talking to me after the divorce about times when she had talked to my ex-husband about me and his eyes would be completely blank because he did not recognize that she was talking about me. After 23 years of marriage, he didn’t know me at all, only the perception of me I was supposed to be to please him.

This is the slavery of the Old South that many still rail about today. You work for your master, not yourself. Your self worth is determined by them as well. There is no equality in this. Don’t let it happen on a national scale.

Incidentally, that same friend was on my ex-husband’s enemy list. There were times when he would make storms and hand down ultimatums of: “Either her or me.” By that time, I was already seeking a way out of the cage he had set upon me. I see this parallel in the Democratic Party as well. How many times have we heard of this person or that person being reviled and consequently ostracized because they went against the party collective(i.e. Joe Leiberman)?

In the email section, I mentioned that my ex-husband moved on to find someone else he can control the way he used to control me. He did and, true to form, she is experiencing much the same problems I used to experience. One day, my youngest asked me about some things for which I had no easy answer. It’s a fine line we survivors walk between how we see our former spouse and not loading that same attitude onto your children.  I feel sorry for my ex’s wife but mainly I feel sorry for him because as old as he is, he still hasn’t learned that such control is amorphous. People like him deliver a dictum of: forgive and forget. I forgive him but I won’t forget. Forgetting is sanctioning or condoning a continuance of the behaviors.

Sound familiar? The left is busy rewriting history so that younger people will never learn what us old folks know. Forgive and forget is not a productive way of life. It leaves you open to more abuse than you can imagine until you actually experience it. I would not wish it on anyone else but I can’t make them not accept it without becoming the thing they shouldn’t accept. But I can speak up, right?

Your self worth should be self determined, plainly and simply. There is no one who knows you better than yourself regardless of what the “experts” say. I’m going down fighting this takeover by the government. If I don’t fight this, what would have been the point of becoming my own person separate and equal to my ex-husband?

I hope many of you join me but even if you don’t, I’m still going to fight.